Hi...don't mind me...I'm just his Mother

>> Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Why is it that when I tell Doctors about his weird habits they alway find some bullshit-i-read-it-when-i-was-in-med-school answer? Why do they dismiss the daily choking on phlegm?

It's not allergies...Super Doctor Allergy Man tested him and his scratch tests that where limited to a handful of intense allergens were negative (so why do I have to have 30 scratches and he only has 10 that have 3 allergens each?). Certainly it can't be a PHYSICAL problem. Surely it can't be he has a funky gag reflex, or a touch of the GERD? Certainly not.

I have been sitting by him almost since he got home at 4:15 and he has been gagging off and on. About once an hour I think he is going to puke. He has done this off and on...oh...forever. It's one of the things we have on his list...I see a new page on this blog being built. And EVERY Doctor has blown me off. I don't want to take him to a Gastro Guy, dear God I will be made to feel even more like a freak than I already do.

But, screw that, I am insane then, because I want to know what it is he can't tell me. I want to know why he looks at me as if he is going to say something and then just smiles. Someone, somewhere will put together the pieces.

And I need to get a video of his twitches. These are pretty new. K..going to go cry for a spell. A long spell. Sad part is, it won't make me feel better.


Amber April 15, 2010 at 6:57 AM  

like you said in your title, you're only his MOTHER so why would you know something's different. It's not like you spend every waking moment with him... mostly...

Holly April 15, 2010 at 8:39 AM  

You know most doctors are narcissists. Right? *sigh* I'm in the process of changing doctors. The one I WAS going to, I only went to because my niece worked for him. He had an assistant for about 2 months for a bit last fall, then he LET HER GO! SHE ACTUALLY LISTENED!! SHE FINALLY ordered some TESTS! UGH! He just says "uh huh uh huh... Let's try THIS..." And writes out another prescription like it's the next thing on his list. I haven't been back to him since. Seeing her ONCE opened my eyes to how much he REALLY DIDN'T LISTEN!

I'm sorry you have to deal with them so frequently. You'd think that since there ARE some unknown factors of things going on with BUG, that they would welcome every tidbit of information from YOU, the one that actually OBSERVES him continually... Well, here's a virtual (((HUG))) I hope today is a bit better.

Nett April 20, 2010 at 11:44 AM  

Fun isn't it Amber? Being treated like an idiot because you only gave birth to them, and are with them every day/ They ASSUME you are emotionally involved more than you are intellectually.

And...Oh you betcha Holly! I usually care more about the support staff than the Doctor. If the staff is great, I can overlook the Doctor being a bit of a jerk.

It's a double edged sword: We want our Doctors to be confident and NEVER doubt their decision, because in a pinch, we need them to be right. But when they are specialists they need to remove that arrogance and replace it with curiosity. EVERY case should be handled individually only the symptoms are the constant. The PERSON is unique. Sounds warm and fuzzy but it isn't. To solve the puzzles you need to search for ALL the pieces.

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